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There’s something exciting about the beginning of a new ministry year. The calendar is filling up. Fall kickoffs are coming. Small groups are getting organized. Volunteers are being recruited. Teaching calendars are being written. Retreats, events, and trips are being planned. There’s energy in the air. And if we’re not careful, there’s also pressure.
Pressure to make this year bigger than last year. Pressure to grow attendance. Pressure to create better programs. Pressure to recruit more volunteers. Pressure to make sure students are having fun, parents are happy, volunteers are equipped, and church leadership sees that the ministry is moving forward. Before long, we can find ourselves running into a brand-new ministry year already exhausted. And this year, that's hitting a little closer to home for me.
I'm Starting This Year a Little Tired This summer was busy. Really busy. Between summer camp, mission trips, ministry responsibilities, speaking opportunities, family commitments, travel, and everything else that somehow finds its way onto a summer calendar, there wasn't much margin.
It was a great summer. There were some incredible moments. There were experiences I wouldn't trade and ministry opportunities I'm incredibly thankful for. But it was also an over scheduled, borderline unhealthy summer. And I'm feeling it. I'm not burned out or anything. I'm not jumping ship or quitting ministry. Nor am I ready to disappear to a cabin somewhere. But there is a mild exhaustion that has followed me into the end of summer.
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Maybe you know the feeling. You're still excited about ministry. You still love your students. You're still looking forward to the year ahead. But you're tired. And that's where I find myself as another school year begins.
The temptation is to simply push through it. After all, fall is coming whether I'm ready or not. The ministry calendar isn't going to wait for me to catch my breath. But I don't want to simply push through. I want to lead differently. As I step into this new school year, I'm doing so with a plan and with greater intentionality about establishing healthier boundaries—for ministry, for my family, for my marriage, and for my own personal walk with Jesus. I don't expect to get it perfect. There will still be busy weeks. There will be late nights, weekend retreats, unexpected conversations, emergencies, and seasons when ministry requires a little more. But I don't want unhealthy busyness to become normal. So instead of starting this ministry year by asking, “How can we have a successful year?” I'm asking a different question: “How can I lead faithfully and healthily this year?” Here are four commitments I'm making as I begin. Prayer Before You Program
Youth workers are really good at programming. Give us a calendar, a whiteboard, some markers, and a couple pizzas, and we can plan an entire semester. Kickoff night. Fall retreat. Small groups. Christmas party. Winter weekend. Mission trip. Summer camp. Before we know it, the entire ministry year is mapped out.
Planning isn't bad. Good planning is part of good leadership. But planning should never replace praying. And if I'm going to establish healthier rhythms this year, they have to begin with Jesus. Not ministry for Jesus. Time with Jesus. Before the emails. Before the meetings. Before message preparation. Before solving the next ministry problem, I want to protect the time that keeps my heart connected to Jesus. Because I can't sustainably lead students somewhere I'm not personally going. Before I plan the next event, I want to pray. Before I write the next teaching series, I want to pray. Before we launch another program, I want to pray. Before deciding what this ministry year needs to look like, I want to listen. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can add to your ministry calendar isn't another program. It's space to listen to Jesus. Invest In Your Leaders
Set Realistic Expectations
Every youth leader wants to see their ministry grow. We want more students. More volunteers. More discipleship. More outreach. More students serving and inviting their friends. Those are good desires. But unrealistic expectations can quickly become unhealthy burdens.
We begin comparing our ministry with the church down the road, the youth ministry we follow online, or the ministry led by the speaker we heard at a conference. Suddenly, what is happening in our ministry doesn't feel like enough. Here's something I'm reminding myself as this year begins: I haven't been called to do everything. I've been called to be faithful. There are only so many hours in a week. I have ministry responsibilities. But I'm also a husband. I'm a dad. I'm a friend. And most importantly, I'm a follower of Jesus. Those aren't obstacles preventing me from doing ministry. They are part of the life I've been given to faithfully steward. That means I can work hard without believing everything depends on me. I can say no. I can leave something until tomorrow. I can acknowledge my limitations. I can build margin into my calendar. I can celebrate what is happening instead of constantly worrying about what isn't happening. Faithfulness is my responsibility. I can trust God with the results. Protect Your Family & Your Marriage
This is one of the boundaries I'm thinking about most as I begin this year.
Ministry can consume everything you give it. There will always be another student who needs you. Another parent who wants to talk. Another meeting you could attend. Another event you could plan. Another email you could answer. Another problem you could solve. Ministry rarely tells you: “You've done enough. Go home.” You have to establish those boundaries yourself. And after a very full summer, I'm realizing again how important that is. I don't want my family to receive whatever is left of me after ministry has taken everything else. And I certainly don't want my marriage to survive on the leftovers of my calendar. So this year, I want to be more intentional. Protect date nights. Be present at dinner. Attend my kids' activities. Take my days off. Use my vacation time. Put the phone away. Leave some evenings empty. Create margin for conversations with my wife that aren't squeezed between ministry responsibilities. Be fully present when I'm home. Will I always get this right? No. There will be emergencies. There will be retreats and trips. There will be unusually busy seasons. That's ministry. But busy seasons cannot become an unhealthy lifestyle. Our families are not interruptions to our ministries. They are among the greatest responsibilities and gifts we've been entrusted with. I'm Choosing a Different Pace
I can't change how busy this past summer was. And truthfully, I wouldn't want to change many of the experiences that made it busy. But I can learn from it.
I can pay attention to the mild exhaustion I'm feeling instead of ignoring it. And I can choose how I enter this next season. So I'm entering this ministry year with a plan. Not simply a ministry plan. A life plan. I want healthier boundaries around my ministry. I want to protect time with my family. I want to intentionally invest in my marriage. I want to create space to rest. And most importantly, I want to protect and deepen my personal walk with Jesus. Because I don't want to spend another year helping everyone else follow Jesus while allowing my own relationship with Him to survive on whatever time happens to be left. Maybe you need that reminder too. Before the calendar gets crazy and the pace picks up, decide what kind of leader—and what kind of person—you want to be this year.
And trust God with the results. Because a healthy ministry year isn't simply measured by how many students showed up, how many events we pulled off, or how much our ministry grew. It's also measured by who we're becoming while we lead. Questions for Reflection
Take a few minute and ask yourself these questions.
This Weeks Challenge
Before your fall calendar gets completely filled, block out an hour. Don't use it to plan programming. Don't answer email. Don't work on your next message.
Take your Bible, a notebook, and your calendar somewhere quiet. Pray.
Then ask one simple question: “What does faithfulness look like for me this year?” Write down what comes to mind. Then take a look at your calendar. Does your calendar reflect your answer? If not, maybe the healthiest way to begin this ministry year is to change the calendar before the calendar changes you. - jay
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It’s not a new thought. But it’s something we too often take for granted: relationships over programs.
I’ve heard it more times than I can count. I’ve said it more times than I can count. Youth ministry is about relationships. Our ministries are built on the idea of developing relationships with students. But if we’re honest, there are times when we get caught up in the details of our programs and miss the target of relationships. Whether it’s leading a retreat, planning a weekly gathering, organizing a mission trip, or managing calendars and logistics, it’s easy for our focus to drift from people to production.
We spend countless hours searching for better games, stronger teaching series, creative event ideas, and ways to make our ministries more engaging. We attend conferences, read books, scroll social media, and save ideas we hope students will love.
Programming is a major part of student ministry. We all want to create environments students are excited to attend. And honestly, I love programming. I’ve spent years building retreat schedules, planning mission trips, organizing community events, creating mystery weekends, and developing ministry calendars. Programming comes naturally to me. I enjoy it. I love the challenge of creating meaningful experiences for students.
At one point, our ministry was working hard to maintain momentum through programs and content, but something still felt off. We were busy. We were active. We were producing. But connection felt shallow.
So we made a shift. Instead of asking, “How do we get students to engage with our program?” we started asking, “How do we help students feel known?” We became more intentional about personal connection. Leaders began reaching out to students individually — not just through social media posts or group messages, but personally. Handwritten notes. Text messages. Phone calls. Conversations before and after youth group. Small group check-ins. Intentional follow-up.
We organized our ministry around connection instead of attendance.
And honestly? It changed everything. Students responded to consistency. They responded to leaders who remembered details about their lives. They responded to adults who genuinely cared about them outside of church programming. We also discovered something else: relationships thrive best in smaller environments. Big gatherings are great. Camps and events are valuable. High-energy programs absolutely have a place. But discipleship tends to happen best when students are known personally by caring adults. That’s why small groups became so important for us. Students opened up. Leaders connected. Trust developed. Conversations deepened. Ministry became less about managing a crowd and more about walking with students personally.
Relationships really do matter.
Students today are surrounded by noise, content, pressure, distraction, and performance. More than ever, they need adults who are willing to slow down long enough to truly know them. Yes, students want fun. Yes, they want engaging environments. But underneath all of that, what they really want is to know someone cares. And when students know they are cared for, the doors open for deeper discipleship, honest conversations, spiritual growth, worship, evangelism, and authentic community.
So as we plan calendars, build teaching series, organize events, and dream about the future of ministry, maybe the better questions are these:
Programs matter. But relationships matter more. At the end of the day, students may forget the games we played or the schedule we carefully crafted. But they will remember the leaders who showed up, listened, encouraged them, prayed for them, and walked alongside them. And that’s the kind of ministry worth building. - jay
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For many youth leaders, ministry can easily become a constant cycle of activity. Week after week, event after event, it’s easy to stay busy without always stopping to ask if we’re truly being effective.
At one point in my ministry journey, I found myself stepping back to seriously consider what youth ministry could—and should—look like. I began to take an honest look at what I was doing, ask why I was doing it, and whether it was actually helping students take meaningful next steps in their faith.
That kind of reflection isn’t always easy.
I had moments of frustration. Times where I questioned whether I was doing enough—or doing the right things. I felt the weight of expectations, wrestled with comparison, and had to confront areas where I knew growth was needed. But through all of that, I began to see something important: if we’re not careful, busyness can mask ineffectiveness. So I made a decision—to look beyond the noise, the pressure, and the pace of ministry, and instead focus on what God might be trying to teach me. What followed were a handful of key shifts that reshaped how I approach student ministry. Here are five lessons that helped move me from busyness to effectiveness:
Don’t lose sight of the vision God has given you. It’s easy to settle into maintenance mode, but effective ministry requires faith, creativity, and a willingness to keep dreaming about what could be.
Re-Start Small
Bigger isn’t always better. Sometimes the most impactful ministry happens in smaller, more intentional environments where students are known, heard, and discipled.
This series comes from lessons I believe God has been teaching and reminding me of in student ministry. My hope is that it encourages you to pause, reflect, and refocus on what truly matters.
I’ll be breaking these ideas into a series of shorter posts to create space to go deeper into each one. If any of this connects with you, I’d love to start a conversation. Youth ministry is better when we learn and grow together. Looking forward to hearing from you. - jay
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Have you ever gotten sidetracked?
You’re focused. Moving forward. Making progress. Then suddenly something pops up—and before you know it, you’re distracted, questioning, wondering… and stuck trying to figure out what to do next. It happens all the time. You’re in the office working on your next youth gathering when a notification pops up. You click it… and 20 minutes later you’ve bounced from post to post to post. Sidetracked. You’re in a planning meeting for your next retreat, and somehow the conversation shifts from afternoon games to the latest Avengers trailer. Sidetracked. Or you’re teaching middle schoolers about God’s sovereignty… and someone farts. Yeah—good luck recovering from that. Sidetracked. 1. Don’t Be Distracted by Distractions
Distractions are inevitable. The issue isn’t that they come—it’s how we respond when they do.
The danger isn’t the interruption; it’s allowing the interruption to derail your calling. You’ve been entrusted with responsibilities—your ministry, your family, your commitments. These matter. And when distractions pull you away to the point that you neglect what God has already placed in front of you, that’s when it becomes a problem. So when a distraction comes, pause if you need to. Evaluate it. But don’t let it pull you away from what you already know you’re called to do. Stay focused on what matters most. RESOURCES...
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2. Move from Distraction to Discernment
3. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate.
When distractions become significant, communication becomes essential.
If you’re married, this is especially important. Talk often. Be honest. Process things together. Make space for real conversations as new information comes in and decisions need to be made. If you’re not married, lean into a trusted friend, mentor, or parent—someone who knows you well and can offer perspective and guidance. You don’t have to navigate difficult seasons alone.
At some point, we all get sidetracked.
Most of the time, it’s temporary—we refocus and move on. Sometimes, though, the distraction runs deeper. It forces us to pause, reflect, and wrestle with bigger questions. Recently, we’ve experienced a few of those moments ourselves. Circumstances have caused us to step back, pray deeply, and seek clarity about what God is doing. While I can’t share the details, I can say this: we are choosing not to let these distractions pull us away from what God has clearly called us to right now. Instead, we’re leaning into prayer, discernment, and intentional communication—trusting that God is at work in ways we can’t yet fully see. And on the other side of this? We expect to see evidence of His grace and His love in powerful ways. That’s my prayer for you as well. When distractions come—and they will—don’t lose your focus. Stay faithful. Stay grounded. And trust that God is still leading. — Jay If you’re a youth worker running on empty, you’re not alone. The late nights, emotional weight, constant availability, and spiritual responsibility can quietly drain you. You love students. You believe in the mission. But lately, you may feel exhausted, discouraged, or even questioning whether you can keep going. That’s exactly why you need a spiritual retreat. Not as a luxury—but as a lifeline. 1. Reconnect with GodMinistry can sometimes crowd out the very relationship it’s built on. You spend so much time teaching, leading, and pouring out that your personal time with God becomes rushed or reactive. A retreat creates intentional space to simply be with Him again. No agenda. No lesson to prep. No students to lead. Just you and God. In that quiet, you’re reminded that your identity isn’t rooted in your ministry output but in being His child. You hear His voice more clearly. You remember that He is the one carrying the weight—not you. Resources to Consider[ affiliate links ] 2. Refresh Your Call to Serve StudentsBurnout often clouds your sense of calling. What once felt like a passion can start to feel like pressure. A retreat gives you the distance needed to rediscover why you said yes in the first place. As you step away from the noise, God often brings clarity. He reminds you of the lives He’s changed, the students He’s entrusted to you, and the purpose behind your work. That calling doesn’t come from guilt or obligation—it’s renewed through His Spirit. You may not leave with all the answers, but you’ll leave remembering that your work matters—and that you’re not alone in it. 3. Rest Your Body and MindYou are not meant to run nonstop. Jesus Himself modeled stepping away to rest. Your body needs sleep. Your mind needs quiet. Your soul needs breathing room. Without rest, everything becomes heavier, harder, and more overwhelming. A retreat allows you to slow down in a way that everyday life rarely permits. It’s not unproductive—it’s essential. When you rest, you regain perspective, energy, and emotional strength. And often, what felt unbearable begins to feel manageable again. If you’re weary, don’t wait until you’re completely burned out to step away. Taking time for a retreat isn’t quitting—it’s choosing to stay healthy enough to keep going. You don’t have to carry this alone. Step away. Breathe deeply. Sit with God. And let Him renew your heart for the work He’s called you to do. - jay
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I am always looking for opportunities for training, networking, and a little time out of the office. As a youth leader, a chance to be with other youth leaders for worship, encouragement and training is something I strive to keep in my yearly routines. So when the time came to attend the Youth Leader Summit, I was excited.
My time in Michigan was the last Summit for 2025. But the dates for 2026 are here. Take a few minutes to visit the YouthLeaderSummit.com, to learn more about the 2026 Summit locations, dates, and registration.
Don't miss a weekend designed for youth leaders, by youth leaders.
- jay
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4. Pray Big PrayersAre you willing to pray big prayers? I mean, BIG prayers. I was at a retreat recently, when I was convicted of my prayer life. Not my lack of a prayer life, but the size of my prayers. No, not how long they are. How BIG they are. I was challenged to consider what it was I was praying for. I found myself leaning into prayers about life and ministry, but they were general prayers. The challenge was to pray for big things. God-sized things. So that is what I am going to do. Since the retreat, I have started praying bigger prayers. And that's what I am encouraging you to do. Pray BIG prayers. The bigger the better.
I want to invite you to join with me next year for Footprints on Campus. Here's a link to the website. Footprints on Campus. What are you praying for? What BIG prayers are on your heart? How are you seeing God move in your life, your ministry, in your community? Share those in the comments below. - jay
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I number of years ago, I wrote a blog post for YM360. They asked for something that helped youth workers begin to think about their summer and how to make to most of their time. So I wrote, Make the Most Out of Your Summer. The article included three quick thoughts that youth leaders could apply to their summer planning with the hope of setting aside some valuable time for themselves, their families, and the students they served. You can read the original post here, Make the Most Out of Your Summer.
1. Think About How You Would Like to Grow this Summer
For many of us, summer brings the slow-down factor. Schools out, families go on vacation, students are off to camp or summer jobs; and the church takes on a light summer schedule. The busyness of programming, small groups, bible studies, and school events all take a back seat to summer. This is a great time to do something that helps you become a better youth worker.
Read a couple books. Take an online class. Take an in-person class. Set out to study a book in the Bible you've been avoiding. Set to meet with someone that you respect who you might learn something from. Use the lighter schedule to do something that will help you grow. And ProTip; maybe what you need to grow in isn't youth ministry. Maybe you need to challenge yourself and look at a topic or practice that will truly challenge you. 2. Schedule A Dreaming Weekend
In the business of the school year, we don't always have time to dream big, God-sized dreams. Most of the time we're just trying to keep our head above water and our students (and sometimes leaders) from hurting themselves. We have study time, meetings, message prep, program planning, 1-on-1's, bible studies, parents to meet with, pastors to meet with, volunteers to meet with... Too often we go from one appointment to another appointment. Where in this busy schedule do you ever have time to dream about and for your ministry.
Schedule some time in your summer to dream big dreams. I would suggest setting aside a weekend for yourself or your team, to go somewhere, and simply begin to ask the, What If? Don't try to figure everything out or plan details, just ask, "God, what would you have us do?" Then let the ideas flow. And, don't be afraid to dream big, crazy, God-sized dreams; the kind of dreams that when you see them on paper you say, Only God could make this happen. It's okay to dream, so go and dream big. 3. Spend Some Time with Your Spouse
In my original article I wrote about spending time with your family. That would include your wife and your kids. Whether a family vacation, trip, or adventure, spending time with the family is always a win. But how about setting some time aside to be with your spouse? Your spouse is often one of your biggest cheerleaders, and at the same time, the person who might sacrifice time with you the most.
Set aside some time to spend with your spouse. I'm not thinking a day, though that might be a good start or the best option depending on your season right now. No, I'm talking about multiple days. Perhaps a weekend. An extended time away from the normal routines of life where you can simply be together. A stay in a hotel. Travel to a local destination location. Book an air b-n-b. Have a romantic dinner. And if any of those ideas are not possibilities, call on some friends, siblings, or grandparents and ask them to take the kiddos away for a night or two and plan the most amazing, romantic stay-cation you can imagine. The point is, don't neglect your spouse for the sake of your ministry. Us the summer as an opportunity to reconnect and appreciate your spouse. 4. Practice A Hobby This Summer
Maybe you have a hobby, maybe you don't. Either way, take some time this summer to practice a hobby. If you have a hobby that you already enjoy, see what it would be like to take it to the next level? If you don't have a hobby, find one and get started with it this summer.
Over the years I have found myself getting deeper and deeper into building a garden and growing vegetables. It started with just a few tomato plants, some cucumber plants, and a couple peppers in my backyard. Today the list of vegetables I plant is close to 20+ items; many of which I start as seeds. In the late summer, early fall, I harvest my veggies and either can, dry, or freeze the bounty. Doing this gives me time to be outside, get my hands a little dirty, and do something that has become very therapeutic for me. Your hobby might not be found playing in the dirt, but a good hobby can be a healthy distraction from the stress and busyness of ministry.
5. Build A Healthier Plan for the Coming Year
The point of all of this is to take some time to focus on you and what matters most to you. Whether it's your physical health, your spiritual health, or your emotional health, your family, your spouse, or your future, you need to take time to care for you. But time caring for you during the summer months doesn't really change anything if you don't establish healthier practices all year long.
This summer might be a great time and space for you to begin to think about your over all health more long-term. Taking control of your calendar, creating space and time to work out, having dinner with your family, studying or have a quiet time, this are all things that can become healthier habits that lead to a healthier life.
I know for me, personally, I plan on establishing a few new, healthy practices for both my family life and my ministry life. As I get older, I am becoming more and more aware of my need to have margin and balance in my life. I am also feeling the realities of not always choosing a healthy diet or exercise plan for myself. At the same time, I am realizing that I need to be healthier (emotionally and spiritually) for my family, my students, and my leaders.
At a recent youth leader conference with my NNYM co-laborers, we were reminded that if wanted to see others around us thrive, we need to be thriving in how we live. I'm not ready to burn out because I didn't take the time to prioritize and prepare for the life and ministry that God has called me into. I want to see him work through me, in the best ways possible. I hope that you might want to say the same. Join with me this summer and together, let's set out to have the best summer ever...for YOU! - the youth worker daily
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I am so excited to share the next chapter of The Youth Worker Daily with you. After a 2 year sabbatical, it's time to get back to sharing student ministry. That means there is new content, both in a written format here on the blog and video content on the TYWD YouTube channel. I am also looking forward to the relaunch of my podcast, Conversations with Every Day Youth Workers, which will begin airing this coming Fall (2025).
Those last couple of months opened the doors to join two ministries that worker with youth workers; PACT Ministries and the National Network of Youth Ministries (NNYM). PACT Ministry provides relationships, training and equipping for evangelical, full-time youth ministers helping them grow in their personal spiritual life, their family relationships and their student ministry through a unique combinations of highly effective, proven educational, relational, and experiential strategies. (from https://pactministry.org/about/about-pact)
National Network of Youth Ministries (NNYM) seeks to see every youth leader thrive in deeper connection with God and each other so that every young person is changed by the story of Jesus. They create collaborative spaces for youth leaders to be personally encouraged, professionally equipped and spiritually strengthened for faithful and effective ministry with the next generation. (https://www.youthworkers.net/mission-and-values.htm) These ministries connected with two of my ministry passions; youth worker networking and youth ministry coaching. After a few more months of prayer and conversation with NNYM, I joined their team. And with PACT, I began my training to become a certified ministry coach.
Then something unexpected happened. Just when we thought we had stepped into our 'what's next,' God opened another door. Just as we were getting used to our 'new roles' we were called to serve an incredible church in Cleveland, Ohio. All of a sudden we were thrusted into full-time student ministry, while connecting with youth workers part-time in the Cleveland area. I can't help but look at all of this and chuckle, just when I thought I knew what my next was, God said, 'I'm not done with you yet.'
The plan had always been to bring The Youth Worker Daily back as a resource to youth workers. Through weekly blog posts, I want to encourage youth workers with helpful content that encourages, equips, and connects youth workers to tools and resources for your ministry. The vlog is home to practical tips , how-to's, and tricks that I hope will help you with the nuts and bolts, game ideas, creative resources, and fun ways to engage with your students. The vlog will be another weekly tool that I hope provides you with fun, interactive tips to help you thrive in your ministry. The podcast, Conversations with Every Day Youth Workers, is something I love doing. It connects with every day youth workers and gives them the space to share their stories and the amazing things God is doing in their ministries. This summer, I hope to begin having those conversations with the goal of posting weekly episode starting in September of 2025.
Here we go. More tools, tips, and resources to help you thrive in your ministry. The Youth Worker Daily wants to encourage you as you reach students.
Know that you are being prayed for. Know that you matter and that you are making a difference. Know that what you are doing is vital; a calling to be Jesus' witness first in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth. And through you, God is changing the lives of students. Welcome Home. - the youth worker daily It was August 1999, my 9-months pregnant wife, my 15-month son, and I moved from north central Pennsylvania to the South Hills of Pittsburgh. Yes, you heard correctly, my 9-months pregnant wife and a 15 month old son. We pulled up to our apartment that quickly, and affectionately, became known as the Shack. There was already a gathering of parents, students, and church members standing by to help us move into our new home. It was chaos, but in a matter of a few hours 90% of our belongs were moved from the truck into the apartment or the lawn beside it. More church members arrived bringing food and essentials that would help us get settled. We were overwhelmed, grateful for this incredible welcome. But while that moment continues to be special, it was another welcome that has been a game changer for me, my family, and my ministry.
The truth is, that day changed my life and my ministry. I didn’t know exactly what it was. On the surface, it was a bunch of guys getting together for lunch, talking about our ministries, swapping funny stories, bragging about our mistakes, and praying for each other. Each year we worked together to host at least one large community-wide student event and the annual Baccalaureate service for our high school graduates. It was about ministry, there was fellowship, and I couldn’t wait for our time together each month. Over the years, I have never, NOT, participated in or organized/led what we now call Youth Ministry Networks. We didn’t coin the phrase, nor the idea. In fact, I would say, it was something we did not really knowing how important that time together was. And we weren’t the only ones. Groups like the ones I was participating in were happen all over the place. It was because of these networks that I grew as a husband, father, pastor, and friend. These small group gatherings of youth workers became a band of brothers and sisters that grew into a vital part of my longevity in student ministry.
Needless to say, it was a much needed time away to connect with brothers and sister that get it. They get the calling. They get the passion. They get the desire. Because the feel it too. They see and understand the need, and recognize that if we don’t step in with hope, the outcome will be devastating. There are thousands of youth workers across the country (and around the world) that need to know that they are not alone. They need to hear that they are loved, that someone cares about them. They need to know that someone is praying for them; that someone is willing to ask hard questions about their life and ministry, someone willing to speak Biblical truth in a loving and God-honoring way. They need someone who has walked the road they’re walking, who understands the highs and low, knows the pain and struggle. Someone who get’s their heart and know’s their passion. They need to know that someone is willing to sit across the table, answer the phone or text, and show up when needed. Someone who can stand in the mire of life and ministry with them, then celebrate the God moments and faith-wins. I said it before, that invitation in August 1999, changed my life. It set me on a trajectory of healthy, long-term ministry. It gave me a place that welcomed me, cared about me, challenged me, held me accountable, and demonstrated what it looks like to be a Godly husband, father, pastor, and friend. So here we are. Over 30 years later, almost 25 of those years in full-time ministry. And it’s not over yet. In fact, this might just be the start of a new and exciting season in student ministry. Here’s what I want to leave you with. If you are in student ministry, whether paid or volunteer, full-time, part-time, whatever-time, and you are not connected to a local student ministry network, can I encourage you to please, prayerfully consider joining one. Don’t know where or how to find a network? No worries, I got you. My friends at the National Network of Youth Ministry (NNYM) can help you. I will provide links below that we help you connect with NNYM and their ever growing database of networks across the country. They can help you find a network near you, and put you in touch with someone who can help you get connected. Lastly, if you are a youth worker, and you need someone to talk to, I would love to help connect you with my friends at PACT Ministry. PACT Ministry is a team of seasoned youth workers, trained to encourage youth pastors in their personal walk with God, family life, and ministry through life-on-life discipleship, coaching, mentoring, and strategic ministry training. Don’t wait till it’s too late. Click here for coaching. You have been given a tremendous calling to minister to students, but your weren’t called to do it alone. We are here and we want to walk with you. - jay |
Meet JayJay Higham is a veteran youth worker of over 30 years; having worked with students in the local church and Christian camping. Jay is married to Amy, his wife of 28 years. They have raised 5 kids, (4 boys and 1 girl). Jay is passionate about student ministry, family ministry, and connecting and networking with youth workers to help them serve their students with passion and excellence. Archives
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